I hung up the phone from a coaching session with my own coach, and teacher, Kate Michels of Core Alignment Coaching, I realized something very profound. The topic of discussion was about being in the state of happiness. I realized that, in my past, I had been viewing happiness from an outside perspective, thinking that it was going to somehow jump into my body and glitter some fairy dust across my soul and I will be happy forever. I pictured it as this place where you visit and suddenly become happy.
It was important for me to grasp this concept…of happiness. So, I even took a course on the Pursuit of Happiness. Yes, there is really a structured course on this topic. From the beginning of time, philosophers, psychologists, neurologists, and scientists have studied, theorized and tested what happiness is and what it does for humans and animals.
This is what I know about happiness from a purely human experience:
When I am mindful of everything around me, I am in a state of awareness. This awareness is about taking note of each thing and asking where it came from, how it got there, what was the purpose of it, why do I keep it, what is it good for, who is it good for.
As I looked around the room a few days ago, I realized that each of the things I noted, and asked those questions, were a part of me. I chose the piles of papers on my desk, I purchased the multiple books lining the shelves of the bookcase that I also bought to house the books. Each book meant something to me, because I chose it for specific reasons.
I chose the Asian decor and lighting, and a Native American drum on the wall because these fill my spirit. Yes, these are all external things, here, but I chose them. The choice is what became so transparent to me in that single moment. I get to choose. And, in that same moment, I felt this warmth of being thankful for that gift of choice.
My life had not been easy with a failed marriage, being raped, losing a child, living in poverty, and raising children alone. It was the times, however, that I recognized that it was happiness that kept me moving towards the light – that life I wanted for myself and my children. Happiness was found in those minute moments of gratitude for someone’s generosity, or just seeing the smiles on my children’s faces when they were happy.
Choice is our gift toward thankfulness, peace, freedom, and happiness. It is there inside us at all times for the partaking. Whether we live in poverty or live in a castle, we possess the gift to choose how we will perceive each moment, how we will view our surroundings, and how we live in those surroundings.
When we celebrate our moments of abundance during this season, we will pause for one day to be thankful, it is our choice. Some gatherings will go around the table and ask what each person is grateful for, others will simply say grace, while even just a few will pause, not realizing the choice they have made to give thanks. It is in this moment we can choose to make this our day of change -to pause for thankfulness and happiness every single day of our future lives.
I wish you all a very Happy and Peaceful season of Thanks, and hope that you will make the choice to live in mindful gratitude each day.
Thank you for reading my blogs each month. I am humbly grateful that my thoughts through words on a page make a difference in people’s lives every day.
For this, I am happy.
Kat is a Professional Core Alignment Mentor who specializes in the art and science of NeuroLinguistic Programming and Emotional Wisdom Training. She is founder of Taproots for Life.
Kat has helped many people realize their own potential, improve parenting, build confidence, respond more wisely to stress, and more.
Kat’s practice spans the globe for English-speaking people. Her passion is helping people awaken the light of wisdom within themselves to live a life of joy.