Calming the Terrier Mind for Better Focus and Balance

We all have our moments of distraction, right? Well, some of us have so many ideas, deadlines, and media recall running through our minds that distractions come easily, and sometimes with fatalities. Ever realize you drove home from work and don’t remember how you got there?  We have entered the realm of the terrier mind.

This is a quick guide to gather information on resources that could help you become more focused, mindful, and feel more grounded in your daily life.

Have you ever watched one? A terrier, that is. They are quick-witted little dogs that can catch your eye in a second, and that may all the time you get to actually see the cuteness. Terriers dart at anything that catches their attention: leaves falling; walnuts on the ground become toys; paper in the trash can; the merciless cats that “taunt” them; and, of course…squirrels. And they race until the sun goes down. Back and forth, back and forth, halting and darting to every sensory stimulus that sparks their mind.

My point is that our minds can be much like the terrier mind. Do you experience this? I do, at times. Especially as a writer! Ideas, ideas, everywhere ideas. So many ideas, so little time. And, I could write on and on about this topic…but! I will not bore you with that rabbit hole – which is a whole different subject. And, by the way, terriers do love rabbit holes!

Let’s take a gaze into a person’s life on the job. Emily is a senior manager at her lobbying firm. She worked hard to get there because of her keen attention to detail, her talent for vision, and her sense of focus. After five years, Emily had built several working teams, improved her bottomline, landed multiple accounts with top executive businesses, and managed to pull off Business Woman of the Year.Blurred Colored Lights

In her sixth year, something shifted for Emily. She was feeling worn out at the end of her usual twelve-hour day. She noticed that she had more than her fair share of colds and flu-bugs. Her mental and emotional fuses became short when people would ask her simple questions or ask her to do a presentation for an inquiring business. Emily could not seem to find the balance between work and home. She lost interest in working out and playing sports. Emily had finally succumbed to her terrier mind!

Few people can continue to multi-task, engage every thought, and be successful for very long. And even fewer people make it out alive (not kidding), never addressing the real cause and effect: terrier mind plus burnout equals health decline (sometimes heart attacks and other life limiting illnesses).

Anyone reading this blog is a talented person with a brilliant mind, yet something drew you to this particular article.  You guessed it! The terrier mind was at it again!!  So, what if you could train your terrier mind to have the focus  and balance you’ve longed for?  What difference would it make for you?  How would your life change?  Yep, that’s what I thought.  I’ll bet you could answer those questions very quickly!

So!  Where do we go from here?  There are many books on how to attain focus, zen meditations, years of counseling, massage and any of the arts that point to relaxation of the mind.  And, I am not discounting any of these services – they are needed and have certainly found their niche in personal wellness.  But, it takes a little more than a weekend or one session to discover and re-train a “mental program” that has been running in your head for some time.  This terrier mind can be re-trained!

In fact, to re-train your mind is not only essential to regaining balance and focus, it

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is also beneficial for your health.  Remember the ads for senior citizens that tell the audience to get out and learn something new?  It is the same concept.  Engage in new thought patterns – live longer and healthier!

According to Mihaly Csíkszentmihályi, Hungarian-American psychologist, when focused on a task that brings happiness, one experiences “flow.”  It is a state of concentration where time and space become non-existent.  While many people do not work in jobs that bring this state, it becomes important to us to either choose a job that embraces a passion that we envision; or, train our minds to bring this sense of focus and flow to our existing life and work.

Glasses on Book-SketchI know, as a writer, that I can write for hours, sometimes days, without realizing any sense of time, space or anything going on around me.  It is a place of complete focus and happiness.  This always been easy and natural for me.  The balance, however, I had to work on.  We can become so absorbed in this focus that other responsibilities can fall to the wayside.

So, what is the answer?  Remember the terrier mind and the re-training that I mentioned earlier?  Re-training the mind is possible through utilizing NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Wisdom Training (EWT).  These terms get thrown around a lot in social media and other big box advertising for coaching.  Here are some statements that sets NLP and EWT practices apart from others:

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1. A coach, mentor, or counselor (practitioner) who uses NLP or EWT (coined by Kate Michels, Psychologist) will only guide a client.  He/she does not suggest or re-train your mind for you.

2.  It is not hypnotherapy, but uses the same concept, except you are completely awake and conscious.  You are in control of the path you choose with your practitioner.

3. Re-training your mind for long term pattern change cannot be done in a weekend.  It took years for your beliefs and patterns to form so it takes a little time to re-train; sort of like learning to ride a bike again after years of not riding.

4.  Combined, EWT and NLP follow an artful method to practice with clients and the science to back it up.  EWT/NLP practitioners are trained in the cause and effect of emotions and the gentle way of assisting a client down those paths of former mental programs without dwelling in the emotion.   Outcomes are subtle, yet very powerful. Suddenly, one might realize that they are acting or speaking differently than before, for example.  They, also, realize that this is the path they chose and attained.

5.  Practitioners become adept at coaching/mentoring with practice.  Most schools do not offer a period of working with real clients in order to experience all types of behaviors.  It is also important to hire a NLP practitioner who also practices EWT.  Ask the questions.

6.  A client may work on one pattern of behavior at a time.  One cannot fix all mental programs in a few weeks.  The client chooses, with the practitioner, what they want to work on and the idea becomes the focus throughout the weeks of mentoring/coaching.

7.  Re-aligning the mind for focus and balance is a moderately timed methodical approach to lasting results

8.  Here are some quick resources:

Professional Mentoring   Schedule a free session with a Professional Mentor and experience the methods described in this blog.

Professional Coach Training:  Learn more about how to become a professional coach with training that focuses on the art, psychology, and scientific methods that bring results.

NLP Coaching Resource Search for a coach or mentor that best fits what you wish to change or improve

I took the methodical approach for myself and put in the time to re-train my mind through many limiting beliefs that I created over time, abuses that I experienced, and built up terrier mind thought processes that were not serving me, and were creating a field of illness all around me.  This was, and still is, time well spent to create a healthier outlook on life, healthier body, deeper sense of spirit, and experience the utmost – balance and happiness!

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Kat is a Professional Success Catalyst  and Mind Alchemist who specializes in the art and science of Core Alignment, NeuroLinguistic Programming and Emotional Wisdom Training, and holds a certificate in the Psychology of Happiness.

She offers programs for life and business, featuring Women’s Enrichment Programs and Diversity in Business.

Ask about her POW (Power of Wisdom) Tribes! kat@taprootsforlife.com               929-333-4624

 

 

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Taming the Chaos Dragon, and Finding Peace

Let’s call her Sarah:  “My kids are driving me nuts!  I took off work for this today!! My keys are locked in the car, I’m screaming for help, we are late to a doctor’s appointment, I’m banging my fists on the window because my 3-year old hpexels-photo-133021.jpegas locked the car. I can’t calm my kids down, ever! They never listen to me. This is my life every single day!”

And then, there is Nicholas: “My boss is always on my back. He finds every little thing wrong with my work, my outlook, my clothes.  He’s just a crazy old B@$!@rd that doesn’t know what he’s doing.  Why does this always seem to happen to me?  This is the third job in a row where the boss is just not respectful to me!” man-people-office-writing.jpg

If we were to ask Sarah and Nicholas if this is what they want for their lives, we can be sure they would say, absolutely not!  These are real people that we meet every day.  Perhaps their scenario is a bit different, but the stressors are there – even in our own lives.  Every second!

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Each day seems to add more frustration from the previous day, until you have built one giant Chaos Dragon!  It claws at you looking for more fodder to grow and destroy you, You have no choice but to give in, you say.

Let’s stop for a moment: If you give in, you give up.  If you keep going the same way, you keep feeding the dragon.  So, what is the solution, then?!  You say:  I’m about to crash here, and your talking about dragons.  Give me the scoop on how to be that Whisperer thingy!”

Okay.  Here you go!

Become the Chaos Dragon Whisperer by following these steps:

1.  Wield your Power: Know What you Want  pexels-photo-462353.jpeg

What lifestyle do I reeaallly want for myself?  What makes that important to me?  What will I have when I get the lifestyle I want?

quote-chalk-think-words.jpgOnly state the positive ideas, and your vision of what you want.  Think of it as negative attracts negative and positive attracts positive.

There is power in handwriting out your vision on paper.

2.  Be Humble: ASK!  pexels-photo-221164.jpeg

The majority of you may skip this step, but it is the next important step to bringing peace to your life.

When you realize what you want, now it is time to ask for it.  Tell everyone what you want, ask them if they know someone who lives this lifestyle. Ask questions, be curious. Just talk about it!  It becomes reality, you’ll see.

3.  Command your Space: Show Up  business-innovation-money-icon-40218.jpeg

If you show up to a party and don’t dance or partake in the festivity, have you really shown up?

How do you show up for yourself?  When you find out what you want, what steps will you take to get there?  Then show up for each one, be present, BE the LIFESTYLE you want!  Is your life dream to be a barista at a coffee shop?  Then BE the barista!  Volunteer if you have to.  Step into the role.

4.  Push Onward: Keep your Promise  pexels-photo-669986.jpeg

When you tell a child that you promise them something, do they ever forget? No, they will hold you to it and not let you forget it…even months from now.

Now, let’s take that same strategy we had as kids and apply it to your current life.  Stay the course of the lifestyle you want.  Is it working on the beach from your laptop?  Create the beach, show up, keep your promise.

Do you keep promises to others; or, do you waffle and make excuses?  Aaah,  there it is.  If you cannot keep promises to others, how can you keep a promise to yourself?  Stay the course, my friend.  Stay the course.

5.  Be the Master: Be Gratefulpexels-photo-424517.jpeg

There are health benefits to having gratitude in your life.  When we are healthy and aligned (think mind, body, spirit), we tend to take life less seriously.  We begin to notice this subtle shift in our lives that brings understanding and peace.  It is learning life mastery!

Many successful people talk about having gratitude in their day and how it helps them be mindful and present of what is really important in life.  Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, and John F. Kennedy, to name a few.

Peace and success are attainable by everyone, when we explore, discover, and act on these steps to tame the Chaos Dragon.

Life becomes more manageable and the ripple effect moves to our family, relationships, our workplace, and anyone we touch.  We become a voice for peace in our lives and it becomes natural.  People notice and internally say, “I want some of that!”  And you just beam, knowing that the Chaos Dragon is back in his cave and peace reigns in world, again.  You are the MASTER!

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Peace is possible for everyone!

Kat is a Professional Core Alignment Mentor who specializes in the art and science of NeuroLinguistic Programming and Emotional Wisdom Training.

She has helped many people realize their own potential, improve parenting, build confidence, respond more wisely to stress, and more.

Kat’s practice spans the globe for English-speaking people.  Her passion is to be a voice for peace and to help others understand, love, and live peaceful lives.

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