Taming the Chaos Dragon, and Finding Peace

Let’s call her Sarah:  “My kids are driving me nuts!  I took off work for this today!! My keys are locked in the car, I’m screaming for help, we are late to a doctor’s appointment, I’m banging my fists on the window because my 3-year old hpexels-photo-133021.jpegas locked the car. I can’t calm my kids down, ever! They never listen to me. This is my life every single day!”

And then, there is Nicholas: “My boss is always on my back. He finds every little thing wrong with my work, my outlook, my clothes.  He’s just a crazy old B@$!@rd that doesn’t know what he’s doing.  Why does this always seem to happen to me?  This is the third job in a row where the boss is just not respectful to me!” man-people-office-writing.jpg

If we were to ask Sarah and Nicholas if this is what they want for their lives, we can be sure they would say, absolutely not!  These are real people that we meet every day.  Perhaps their scenario is a bit different, but the stressors are there – even in our own lives.  Every second!

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Each day seems to add more frustration from the previous day, until you have built one giant Chaos Dragon!  It claws at you looking for more fodder to grow and destroy you, You have no choice but to give in, you say.

Let’s stop for a moment: If you give in, you give up.  If you keep going the same way, you keep feeding the dragon.  So, what is the solution, then?!  You say:  I’m about to crash here, and your talking about dragons.  Give me the scoop on how to be that Whisperer thingy!”

Okay.  Here you go!

Become the Chaos Dragon Whisperer by following these steps:

1.  Wield your Power: Know What you Want  pexels-photo-462353.jpeg

What lifestyle do I reeaallly want for myself?  What makes that important to me?  What will I have when I get the lifestyle I want?

quote-chalk-think-words.jpgOnly state the positive ideas, and your vision of what you want.  Think of it as negative attracts negative and positive attracts positive.

There is power in handwriting out your vision on paper.

2.  Be Humble: ASK!  pexels-photo-221164.jpeg

The majority of you may skip this step, but it is the next important step to bringing peace to your life.

When you realize what you want, now it is time to ask for it.  Tell everyone what you want, ask them if they know someone who lives this lifestyle. Ask questions, be curious. Just talk about it!  It becomes reality, you’ll see.

3.  Command your Space: Show Up  business-innovation-money-icon-40218.jpeg

If you show up to a party and don’t dance or partake in the festivity, have you really shown up?

How do you show up for yourself?  When you find out what you want, what steps will you take to get there?  Then show up for each one, be present, BE the LIFESTYLE you want!  Is your life dream to be a barista at a coffee shop?  Then BE the barista!  Volunteer if you have to.  Step into the role.

4.  Push Onward: Keep your Promise  pexels-photo-669986.jpeg

When you tell a child that you promise them something, do they ever forget? No, they will hold you to it and not let you forget it…even months from now.

Now, let’s take that same strategy we had as kids and apply it to your current life.  Stay the course of the lifestyle you want.  Is it working on the beach from your laptop?  Create the beach, show up, keep your promise.

Do you keep promises to others; or, do you waffle and make excuses?  Aaah,  there it is.  If you cannot keep promises to others, how can you keep a promise to yourself?  Stay the course, my friend.  Stay the course.

5.  Be the Master: Be Gratefulpexels-photo-424517.jpeg

There are health benefits to having gratitude in your life.  When we are healthy and aligned (think mind, body, spirit), we tend to take life less seriously.  We begin to notice this subtle shift in our lives that brings understanding and peace.  It is learning life mastery!

Many successful people talk about having gratitude in their day and how it helps them be mindful and present of what is really important in life.  Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, and John F. Kennedy, to name a few.

Peace and success are attainable by everyone, when we explore, discover, and act on these steps to tame the Chaos Dragon.

Life becomes more manageable and the ripple effect moves to our family, relationships, our workplace, and anyone we touch.  We become a voice for peace in our lives and it becomes natural.  People notice and internally say, “I want some of that!”  And you just beam, knowing that the Chaos Dragon is back in his cave and peace reigns in world, again.  You are the MASTER!

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Peace is possible for everyone!

Kat is a Professional Core Alignment Mentor who specializes in the art and science of NeuroLinguistic Programming and Emotional Wisdom Training.

She has helped many people realize their own potential, improve parenting, build confidence, respond more wisely to stress, and more.

Kat’s practice spans the globe for English-speaking people.  Her passion is to be a voice for peace and to help others understand, love, and live peaceful lives.

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Awakening to Gratitude- A Family Thanksgiving Message

On Thanksgiving, 2014, I recall that after some masterful cooking in the kitchen, we sat down to a meal.  It had become my  family tradition. After years of both sides of family arguing over whose turn it was that we come to their Thanksgiving, I finally had enough and drew the line in the sand to declare that my own family would be having dinner at our home.

By 1995, my children were at an age (17, 15 and 10) where it was even more important to gather the troops after  shuffling around our schedules and continual running with soccer games, track meets, religion classes, music lessons/concerts, trips to the doctors while balancing all of this with my busy work schedule.  My husband began to cherish and look forward to this time, as well, as he was the grounding force behind the scenes when things got chaotic.  It was his time to relax and enjoy the moment of fun, kids, and food.

In 2014, Thanksgiving was, in my opinion, the perfect feast. [Every year, I seemed lay claim that this was my best culinary year ever. Family cooks, I’m sure you can relate!]  Turkey, mashed potatoes and gravy, sauteed green beans, maple carrots, salad, and my traditional RTS (rosemary, sage & thyme) stuffing.  Of course no Thanksgiving dinner is complete without wine and desserts: pumpkin and pecan piesfood-791640_1920

So! I’ve addressed the reason we celebrate with only my family, and, or course, the food – important on this day.   From the kitchen on that blustery 2014 day outside, I beckoned the family from the games they were playing in our warm, cozy living room, shouting the infamous “It’s time to eat!”  Imagine “kids” in their 30’s, running to the table, elbowing each other – now with grandchildren (16, 14, and 12) vying for their place at the table with the adults.  A happy, and familiar, sight for an aging mother’s eyes!

We finally sat down to eat, gazed in amazement around at all the food on the table and, at that moment, I decided that we needed to say out loud what we were thankful for.  I started.  “I am thankful for these days when we are together, laughing, playing and enjoying each other.”  We continued around the table and each person voiced gratitude for things in their life or the day.

Last, but certainly, not least ,was my oldest son, whman-1209574_1920o usually had an entirely different outlook on life.  He paused, swallowed, then said with deep thought, “I’m thankful for each day that I am able to draw a breath of life.”  Silence seized the moment, frozen still in a sudden time-warp of mystic befuddlement.

Everyone heard the message, everyone seemed to want to embrace the message, but were grappling with their own egos to respond delicately to such a profound statement.  My heart drew inward just that moment.  I felt his painful journey to gratitude, yet this was such a precious moment of beauty for the souls sitting around the table.

These words might not have much bearing on the average family at a Thanksgiving table, but this was different.  My son had accomplished living to be 34 years surgery-590536_1920old, battling Cystic Fibrosis since he was born.  His struggle to simply breathe had become a daily battle. Yes, his message was quite different.   How does one find gratitude when faced with the struggles of multiple stomach surgeries, diabetes, pain, and now, just breathe, function, and live life every day?

His words created a very sudden immediate, humbling moment for those around the table.  The family members  who said they were grateful for material things like turkey dinner,the upcoming football game, or something humorous to skate from any emotion that may creep in while listening to everyone else’s heartfelt thanks, were now questioning their own sense of gratitude.  My son was intense yet modest about his words of gratitude.  My son, who was usually the one to issue humor or gregarious quotes. The moment of silence was peaceful, yet this hollow space yearned to be filled.

Then a gift broke the silence..quite humbly, each person at the table began to thank him for giving his heart to this momentous piece of time.   I looked upon my family at this meal in a more loving light, as my heart beat with a heart-1318850_1920great sense of joy and satisfaction.  My children had become beautiful adults and I can be thankful for years to come that they will look out for each other and be grateful for different things in life.

I will always remember my son’s words that day.  It made me think of how precious our lives are on this earth with such little time to create our mark of love and gratitude.

My son’s words made time stand still for just a small moment to allow everyone space to go inward for a self-check of why we exist: To love, be loved, and walk in gratitude every single day of our lives.

May you all find love and peace in your moment at Thanksgiving and  wherever you celebrate gratitude around the world.

HippyKat

Kat helps people awaken the light within to live a life of joy.  She believes that every person deserves to live their authenticity with conviction and a voice to be heard.

She is a Core Alignment Mentor, Professional Neuro Linguistic Programmer and Emotional Wisdom Trainer.  Kat  is also a writer, aromatherapist, and energy worker.  Her work has helped many people overcome fear, anxiety, loss of confidence, memory loss and more.  She conducts 95% of her mentoring over the phone.

Kat is currently taking new clients for December 2016.                                                                        E-mail:  livingmywisdom@gmail.com or  call 314-359-2647