Most of you are familiar with a famous cartoon character named Charlie. On Halloween, Charlie and his friends step up to the neighbor’s door and yell, “Trick or Treat!” The neighbor tosses various sizes and shapes of treats into their bags. As they move away from the door, the kids begin to size up what treats they received. “I got gum, I got chocolate…!”
Lastly, Charlie says quietly with disappointment, “I got a rock.” This not only happens once, but three times! And, with equal tone and doom, Charlie begins to personify the heaviness of the drop in his bag.
In life, we meet many Charlies that could relate to this unlucky Halloween experience. Do you see the friend at work who always gets overlooked for a promotion? How about a sister or brother who thinks that the cycle of not being included will never end? Or the boss who never sees the good things you do? Do you see a wee bit of yourself in Charlie?
Charlie tried to see the positive in life, yet doom seemed to follow him everywhere. Even his dog made fun of him. What was missing from Charlie’s life that all his friends seemed to have mastered?
On the outside, we seem to do a good job of masking our feelings that occur deep inside us. For Charlie, even his Halloween costume portrayed his internal woe of doom. His ghost sheet full of holes screamed, “I am a failure!” It reflected how he carried himself in his outer world. If you know of someone who can relate, they could be wearing the same costume without realizing it. But there is hope!
Each of us possesses a core mindset where we can choose to feel like a rock or a gem. When we are able to develop this new type of thinking, we can learn from our”rock,” about what we portray, what we say, how we say it, what we see as constant gloom and doom, the types of friends we attract, failure, lack of focus.
When we embrace our emotional existence, we can learn to move our internal negative self-talk from a rock to a gem with language changing to positive:
” I constantly say I’m a failure” to “I am a winner;” or ” I don’t make a lot of money;” to “I am grateful to have a roof over my head and food in my stomach.”
The “rock language” changes to “gem language.”The gem we create and embrace becomes who we are truly meant to be: loving, giving, thankful creatures of the planet.
We begin to feel more beauty in our space, opportunities open up, we smile more, people take notice. We see simple things for the first time that are simply beautiful!
So! The next time you are thrown a rock, what will your choice be? Rock or Gem?
Pardon me, as I stir my tea with a stick of rock candy…(beastly howl!Bwahaha!!).
Kat Kohler Schwartz is a Core Alignment Mentor and founder of Salt of the Earth Holistic Wellness in St. Louis, MO, USA.
Kat mentors women who face difficult challenges in life which include relationships at home, work, and socially. She specializes in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Emotional Wisdom Training.
She offers phone mentoring, group sessions, and face-to-face with aromatherapy and energy work.
Contact: firstname.lastname@example.org or call 314-359-2467