Calming the Terrier Mind for Better Focus and Balance

We all have our moments of distraction, right? Well, some of us have so many ideas, deadlines, and media recall running through our minds that distractions come easily, and sometimes with fatalities. Ever realize you drove home from work and don’t remember how you got there?  We have entered the realm of the terrier mind.

This is a quick guide to gather information on resources that could help you become more focused, mindful, and feel more grounded in your daily life.

Have you ever watched one? A terrier, that is. They are quick-witted little dogs that can catch your eye in a second, and that may all the time you get to actually see the cuteness. Terriers dart at anything that catches their attention: leaves falling; walnuts on the ground become toys; paper in the trash can; the merciless cats that “taunt” them; and, of course…squirrels. And they race until the sun goes down. Back and forth, back and forth, halting and darting to every sensory stimulus that sparks their mind.

My point is that our minds can be much like the terrier mind. Do you experience this? I do, at times. Especially as a writer! Ideas, ideas, everywhere ideas. So many ideas, so little time. And, I could write on and on about this topic…but! I will not bore you with that rabbit hole – which is a whole different subject. And, by the way, terriers do love rabbit holes!

Let’s take a gaze into a person’s life on the job. Emily is a senior manager at her lobbying firm. She worked hard to get there because of her keen attention to detail, her talent for vision, and her sense of focus. After five years, Emily had built several working teams, improved her bottomline, landed multiple accounts with top executive businesses, and managed to pull off Business Woman of the Year.Blurred Colored Lights

In her sixth year, something shifted for Emily. She was feeling worn out at the end of her usual twelve-hour day. She noticed that she had more than her fair share of colds and flu-bugs. Her mental and emotional fuses became short when people would ask her simple questions or ask her to do a presentation for an inquiring business. Emily could not seem to find the balance between work and home. She lost interest in working out and playing sports. Emily had finally succumbed to her terrier mind!

Few people can continue to multi-task, engage every thought, and be successful for very long. And even fewer people make it out alive (not kidding), never addressing the real cause and effect: terrier mind plus burnout equals health decline (sometimes heart attacks and other life limiting illnesses).

Anyone reading this blog is a talented person with a brilliant mind, yet something drew you to this particular article.  You guessed it! The terrier mind was at it again!!  So, what if you could train your terrier mind to have the focus  and balance you’ve longed for?  What difference would it make for you?  How would your life change?  Yep, that’s what I thought.  I’ll bet you could answer those questions very quickly!

So!  Where do we go from here?  There are many books on how to attain focus, zen meditations, years of counseling, massage and any of the arts that point to relaxation of the mind.  And, I am not discounting any of these services – they are needed and have certainly found their niche in personal wellness.  But, it takes a little more than a weekend or one session to discover and re-train a “mental program” that has been running in your head for some time.  This terrier mind can be re-trained!

In fact, to re-train your mind is not only essential to regaining balance and focus, it

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is also beneficial for your health.  Remember the ads for senior citizens that tell the audience to get out and learn something new?  It is the same concept.  Engage in new thought patterns – live longer and healthier!

According to Mihaly Csíkszentmihályi, Hungarian-American psychologist, when focused on a task that brings happiness, one experiences “flow.”  It is a state of concentration where time and space become non-existent.  While many people do not work in jobs that bring this state, it becomes important to us to either choose a job that embraces a passion that we envision; or, train our minds to bring this sense of focus and flow to our existing life and work.

Glasses on Book-SketchI know, as a writer, that I can write for hours, sometimes days, without realizing any sense of time, space or anything going on around me.  It is a place of complete focus and happiness.  This always been easy and natural for me.  The balance, however, I had to work on.  We can become so absorbed in this focus that other responsibilities can fall to the wayside.

So, what is the answer?  Remember the terrier mind and the re-training that I mentioned earlier?  Re-training the mind is possible through utilizing NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP) and Emotional Wisdom Training (EWT).  These terms get thrown around a lot in social media and other big box advertising for coaching.  Here are some statements that sets NLP and EWT practices apart from others:

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1. A coach, mentor, or counselor (practitioner) who uses NLP or EWT (coined by Kate Michels, Psychologist) will only guide a client.  He/she does not suggest or re-train your mind for you.

2.  It is not hypnotherapy, but uses the same concept, except you are completely awake and conscious.  You are in control of the path you choose with your practitioner.

3. Re-training your mind for long term pattern change cannot be done in a weekend.  It took years for your beliefs and patterns to form so it takes a little time to re-train; sort of like learning to ride a bike again after years of not riding.

4.  Combined, EWT and NLP follow an artful method to practice with clients and the science to back it up.  EWT/NLP practitioners are trained in the cause and effect of emotions and the gentle way of assisting a client down those paths of former mental programs without dwelling in the emotion.   Outcomes are subtle, yet very powerful. Suddenly, one might realize that they are acting or speaking differently than before, for example.  They, also, realize that this is the path they chose and attained.

5.  Practitioners become adept at coaching/mentoring with practice.  Most schools do not offer a period of working with real clients in order to experience all types of behaviors.  It is also important to hire a NLP practitioner who also practices EWT.  Ask the questions.

6.  A client may work on one pattern of behavior at a time.  One cannot fix all mental programs in a few weeks.  The client chooses, with the practitioner, what they want to work on and the idea becomes the focus throughout the weeks of mentoring/coaching.

7.  Re-aligning the mind for focus and balance is a moderately timed methodical approach to lasting results

8.  Here are some quick resources:

Professional Mentoring   Schedule a free session with a Professional Mentor and experience the methods described in this blog.

Professional Coach Training:  Learn more about how to become a professional coach with training that focuses on the art, psychology, and scientific methods that bring results.

NLP Coaching Resource Search for a coach or mentor that best fits what you wish to change or improve

I took the methodical approach for myself and put in the time to re-train my mind through many limiting beliefs that I created over time, abuses that I experienced, and built up terrier mind thought processes that were not serving me, and were creating a field of illness all around me.  This was, and still is, time well spent to create a healthier outlook on life, healthier body, deeper sense of spirit, and experience the utmost – balance and happiness!

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What passion rocks your world?

Kat is a Professional Success Catalyst  and Mind Alchemist who specializes in the art and science of Core Alignment, NeuroLinguistic Programming and Emotional Wisdom Training, and holds a certificate in the Psychology of Happiness.

She offers programs for life and business, featuring Women’s Enrichment Programs and Diversity in Business.

Ask about her POW (Power of Wisdom) Tribes! kat@taprootsforlife.com               929-333-4624

 

 

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In the past year, I have been exploring more of what makes business owners tick or dance to their own drum. I didn’t quite get it until I was challenged to switch gears in my own business…like…within 24 hours.

While I had been coaching small businesses owned by women over the past three and a half years, I was staying within the same circle of the 1-2 person business. My coach (yes, coaches have coaches, too) issued the task of creating a business model to service other businesses, big ones…like over 500 employee big ones!

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After I hiccuped coffee on the front of myself, I responded with recuperated grace and sheepish response, “of course I want to grow my business, sir.” I laid out my best excuses, however, to defend my current success: “But, my current business model allows me to work from home, and I don’t believe I have the accounting background to coach large businesses, and I don’t, I don’t have enough experience or polish or …”

I had to stop myself from the now recognizable excuses that I was giving to a man who had died three times and lived to be a buff and robustly healthy- looking man; and, another man who was a millionaire from the time he was twenty-five. I realized that I was not going to get passed the two of them who were opening this glossy gate of opportunity that looked so intimidating.

The last word to my excuses, however, never flowed from my lips because it was this word that kept me back: COURAGE  Yep, with all that I have been through and experienced in my life, that word nearly rolled off my tongue. But, it didn’t. Not this time.

You see, this time, I caught myself in the midst of my “whining” and realized that for every excuse I gave my coaches, they had been there and came back from it. This is what we can receive from a great coach, and a great business owner. They’ve been there. This is why they help others. And the aha! moment came…this is why I coach others.  I have knowledge, experience and stories to help people and businesses take short cuts, just like my coaches were attempting to do with me!  pexels-photo-935870.jpeg

There is a spirit among us business owners that each time we face a challenge, we mentally spin first, then take the reigns and say,”giddyap!”  And guess what?  Each of us is… human: we have families, we have cub scouts, soccer games, aging parents, broken bones, arthritis, cancer, and lists and lists of things we need to accomplish.  There is a recognizable rhythm that each of us carries as we walk, talk, sleep and do.  It’s called passion.  This fire in our gut that gives us full steam ahead to meet the challenge.  It’s not for the faint of heart.

So, my friends, I am on this big journey to challenge myself, learn, and grow some courage to do something so huge that I never dreamed it could be so-o-o terrifying, yet so exciting to hop on this ride.

Are you with me on a similar journey? I won’t give away my secret mission until I accomplish it, and I will accomplish it.

Buddhist Monks on Roller CoasterLet’s do this together. Choose something that sparks your passion and puts a bit of fear in your gut. This is the beginning feeling, like when you are riding a roller coaster and are at the crest of the hill, knowing what is ahead. Well, this is just the beginning! There are many crests in the hill of trying something new, but letting the downward rush carry you is such a thrill.

What will your ride look like? Is it writing a book, learning the guitar, or sharpening your valuable skills into that business that you always wanted to pursue?

Come along with me. Walk on the wild side of this journey.
I now challenge you to take that big step. Clear the mind, take a deep breath and walk into the journey to mastery. Experience the flow as you do what feels right to you.

As I take on this challenge, I encourage those of you, who will follow to open a business, to hire two types of coaches: a business coach and a life coach  Each one offers a diverse set of skills, knowledge and approach.

For those who are not tight-rope walking dare devils, and want to just learn something new but have a resistance,  reach out to a Life Coach, a Voice Coach, a Real Estate Coach (yes, there is such a thing!), or any style of coach that helps you develop your skill, your confidence, and your yearning to keep trying something new or embrace change.  Do your homework in seeking a good coach and you will be enjoying that downward rush into upward growth, success and fulfillment in no time!

Sending you my most heartfelt wishes to many successes ahead!

~Kat

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Kat is a Professional Success Catalyst who specializes in the art and science of Core Alignment, NeuroLinguistic Programming and Emotional Wisdom Training, and holds a certificate in the Psychology of Happiness.

She has helped many people realize their own potential, improve management skills,  build confidence, find balance, respond to stress, build effective teams, and more.

Kat’s practice spans the globe for English-speaking people.  Her passion is to help others think independently, creatively, and to grow from their experience

Taproots for Business

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kat@taprootsforlife.com